For all the good ministry Mark Driscoll does for the Kingdom, there is still enough bad in my opinion to require a clear “Warning Label” on his teachings and ministry. When hammering out the essentials of discipleship and faith, I can stomach his teachings and be challenged and sharpened by him. Yet, he’s notorious for taking very cut-and-dry, my-way-or-the-highway stands on many secondary issues and placing those views in the “essentials” category.
I’ve referenced in the past his ridiculous quote about not being able to worship a Jesus he can beat up, prefering a burly masculine Jesus with an attitude and score to settle, while attacking more gentle, non-violent descriptions of Jesus. Read Boyd’s challenge here on that issue.
Today, I commend to you Ben Witherington III’s challenge to Driscoll and his wife’s views of husband and wife roles in the home. In particular, they address the question of “Is it biblical for the husband to be a stay-at-home dad?” Go check out the fascinating conversation here. Witherington is responding to the video above.
What’s my position? Well, I’m a big fan of stay at home moms, and stay at home dads. I’m a big fan of godly moms and dads doing the best with the circumstances life has handed them. I think most of us live in a world where things are a bit more complicated and messy – and our ideal is not always an option at the moment.
Thus far in our marriage, Keri has been the primary “bread winner” because the ministry assignments God has called me to have not paid enough to support us both. In other words, Keri does not stay at home right now (plus we don’t have kids!) precisely because of God’s call on our life to plant a church where I am not paid a salary at the moment. So, things are more complicated….
Honor God in your marriage, raise Godly children with the best of your ability while making the most of your current life circumstances, live in tune your God-given passions and gifts, and remember there is abundant grace when we fall short — as we all do daily.